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In preparation for the endless holiday season, New York’s Overlook Press has sent over a copy of Jerry Williams, Ph.D’s newly-released must-buy contemporary break-up poetry playlist: It’s Not You, It’s Me. Culled from poems that have consoled him through various states of distraught over the sharper edges of monogamous love, Williams and Overlook have created an anthology certain to provide comfort to purchasers of niche-collections everywhere. Friend dumped? Dumped yourself? Dumping someone and don’t know how to say it in your own words?—
The fact is I have a rule. It began with movies, and has carried out to other media from there. Many may consider it unfair—an infraction of the book-and-cover agreement—but if the word “hilarious” appears anywhere on the jacket or casing or sleeve, said media will generally be returned immediately to the shelf. This response is not blind reflex, but muscle-memory carefully toned by years of pseudo-scientific testing, periods of exposure and examination of my psychological response to various forms of product marked “hilarious,” followed by extensive comparison and recovery. And no, this does not mean I did not laugh as Pauly Shore and Stephen Baldwin farted in the cloud generator in Bio-Dome, or when Jim Carey made another ridiculous face in that movie where he can’t control again his response to social stimuli, but more often than not I’ve found that such items provide little more than light distraction, a superficial temporary mind-melt, no more fulfilling or restorative than a mouthful of ketamine. Thus, you can imagine my expectations when I opened the package from Overlook Press, flipped to the front-inside of the dust-jacket, and found that dreaded word within the book’s first five. It was out of a certain sense of duty, of some relationship established simply by the sending and receiving of the book—which suggested a sort of mutual respect—that I read on.
In his introduction, “legendary sufferer” Jerry Williams describes the four devastating break-ups that provide the experiential and inspirational backbone for the compilation of It’s Not You, It’s Me. “By now,” he writes, “I’ve spent so much time in the throes of dissolution that I must certainly have achieved a keener understanding of the process, if not an advanced degree of expertise.” Thankfully, Williams has put down the cross long enough to organize these poems. The book is split into three sections, each meant to convey a stage of the break-up process: One Foot Out the Door, In the Middle of the Storm, and The Aftermath. Featuring over 90 poems by 38 authors, the book’s collaboration follows a few simple rules: “(1) the poets still had to be alive; (2) they had to be female and/or male, gay and/or straight, minority and/or majority; and (3) the work needed to be non-therapeutic yet transformative, hard-hitting, enlightening, emotionally varied, wide-ranging technically, and either clear-cut or discursive […] poems that ‘[make] the stomach believe,’ to quote Tim O’Brien…”
This being said, despite its questionable value as a niche-market anthology, its worth as a survey of contemporary poetics should be considered. Represented are works by writers including Mark Strand, Robert Hass, Maxine Kumin, Linda Gregg, Jack Gilbert, Yusef Komunyakaa, Ravi Shankar, Alan Shapiro, Tony Hoagland, Ai, Denis Johnson, Kim Addonizio, Patricia Smith, Amy Gerstler, Mark Halliday, and Bob Hicok (with many of these authors displayed more than once). The poems themselves exude their strength, their authenticity of experience, in which “you will not find false hope, but the real hope of colliding with genuineness,” as well as bearing with them some understanding of being alive, in love, in anguish, in the world as it is today. Most of the pieces are certainly of the sort that, were one caught in the throes of love gone awry, solace could be found within them–some recognition of oneself nestled inside these poets’ lines. Moments of collision arrive in various forms; sometimes bluntly, as in Bob Hicok’s “The Sporting Life”:
He and his wife have split.
As an atom does when violently asked, when struck by a hammer
of some kind.
Wherein break becomes nothing more or less profound than a universal fact of things, when struck, when strained. Or else with bitterness, as Denis Johnson doles it out in “After Mayakovsky”:
This accident
that was my life will have its witnesses:
now, while the world lies wholly motionless
and sorry in a crapulence of stars,
now is the hour one rises to address
the ages and history and the universe:
I swear you’ll never see my face again.
There is the dark and eschatological humor of Ai’s “Penis Envy,” in which the speaker suggests:
But the other subtler thing is how a man
must stand up to humiliation,
must retaliate, or lose himself,
who when he finds some pubic hair
in his can of Coke
must ask, regardless of the consequences,
who put it there?
And the cheekiness and nostalgia of Kim Addonizio’s “Ex-Boyfriends”:
They hang around, hitting on your friends
or else you never hear from them again.
They call when they’re drunk, or finally get sober,
they’re passing through town and want dinner,
they take your hand across the table, kiss you
when you come back from the bathroom.
Ultimately, whether or not Jerry Williams, Ph.D, is being truthful when he says, “Subconsciously, I must have been preparing this anthology ever since I was sixteen years old and swiped my first book from the library,” or It’s Not You, It’s Me is an opportunistic stab at seasonal and commercial irony, while also conveniently adding a publication to Williams’ list for the tenure review board, we may never know. However, for inquisitive minds, you may ask him yourself if you’d like, and enjoy readings by some of the compiled authors at upcoming events, including an Anti-Valentine’s Day Party tomorrow, February 11th. Of course.
















